Day 2……November 2.
The rest of the “list” of things I am grateful for will be in no specific order so don’t worry about the fact that today I am grateful for books.
I assure you it is not that I love books more than my family or my health. 🙂
What it is is that tonight I have a book group with some women that are family to me. Shout out to “Prose Before Bros”!
So with that frame of reference today is books.
It has not always been easy to love books. I wasn’t always one to read for pleasure.
Though I enjoyed reading, as a mother with lots of littles (4 kids in 5 years and 3 weeks to be specific) I didn’t always take the time for books. When I did read, it was like I had no self control. I had to read the entire book in a matter of days. That left my “momming” duties unattended and me lacking sleep.
It was “better” for everyone if I didn’t read solely for my own enjoyment.
Isn’t that a depressing thought?
But it wasn’t the books’ fault!
That’s the thing about brains. They can come to conclusions with all the data they have accumulated and decide what that data means. That doesn’t necessarily make those conclusions true or factual.
So it is with books and the many misguided conclusions my brain has come to over the years!!
Books are so freeing! I can escape. I can be transported. I can be entertained. My deductive reasoning skills can get a workout (can you guess that I really enjoy a good mystery?). It can stretch my perspective and see things in a new light. I can gain a new understanding. I can decide I want to learn something new and do it.
That’s not to say I only love novels and educational books. To my husband’s dismay, I have amassed quite a collection of children’s literature as well. Maybe I will have to edit this post soon and add a list of some of my favorites in each category.
I think my love grew in part because of this particular book group. It started about 20 years ago. Though it has morphed through the years, there still remains a core group of women that I “grew up” with. But that is another post.
The love that book groups has fostered has been through reading what others suggested and broadening my scope. Reading things I would not have chosen at first glance.
Now I know why you shouldn’t choose a book by its cover.
As time moved forward and technology arrived on the scene, life got busier and books changed. Digital readers grew in popularity and made it possible to carry hundreds of books with me at all times. Not that I was choosing to read them more and more…. I was busy!!!
Then I moved into the realm of audiobooks. At least then I could be “reading” and still using both my hands to make dinner, clean up a messy kid, or fold the laundry.
Over time, I was too busy for even that. Really? That seems extreme, but that’s what I would tell myself.
For a while, I would buy books intending to read them and watch them pile up. Who knew there was word for that?
Tsundoku (Japanese: 積ん読) refers to the phenomenon of acquiring reading materials but letting them pile up in one’s home without reading them.
Hahaha!!! TOTALLY ME!
Fast forward to starting to engage with books again. Back to audio books but more often than not they were self-help or personal development books.
I was in the process of “fixing” all my issues. I needed the information to get to the source of my problems so I could “solve” them and be happy all the time.
I’m Michelle. I am learning how to minimize my overwhelm, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and I am ready to help you do the same. I’m a certified Life Coach and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Come with me and learn how.
SPOILER ALERT: I didn’t need to be fixed or solved. And neither do you. But again, a different story for a different day.
It was not all bad! I have learned so much and I continue learning. I am loving it!
And now I am consciously choosing to read. Scheduling it in my planner; Multiple books at a time!
In the present, I am rekindling my love of written words on actual paper. Books that I can hold in my hands and be present with. And not just my love of the tactile experience but allowing myself the “luxury” of fiction again.
Not everything I do in life has to be productive! (If I keep repeating this to myself, one day it may take hold in my brain :)) And even though fiction may not have a direct correlation to productivity, in reality it is entirely related.
If I can allow myself the time to read and enjoy a good book, my brain gets to enjoy a different type of workout. I think of it like going out on my stand up paddle board. It is a workout but not one that I normally do. I get to enjoy beautiful surroundings, spend time with people I love, and have some fun. The workout part is more of a bonus.
That is books. I love to buy them. I love to read them. I love to listen to them. I love to talk about them. I love to suggest them to others!!
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My work is GRATITUDE, and I want to become a master!!
And as always…..Remember…..It’s ALL good!!