A Letter From My Future Self

So in this exercise, the me of the future writes a letter to me in the present.

She is exactly where I want to be in my business. (Do I even know where that is?)

What advice would she give me?

What would she tell me to stop doing?

What would she tell me to start doing?

What else would she tell me?

Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain

The reality of being a human and living with other humans, is that there are parts of life that are painful. There’s no way to avoid it, but what is avoidable is the additional suffering that we add on. Knowing the difference can cause a shift out of unnecessary worry and rumination; shame and blame. Understanding these two types of emotional pain can help you live a more peaceful life.

22 Birthdays Later

So why am I telling you all of this?

Because on that day in 2001 I didn’t think I would survive. I couldn’t see how that was possible given the events that had transpired. The emotions were overwhelming.

But I did survive. I survived the first 21 minutes. Then 21 hours. Then 21 days. Then 21 weeks. Then 21 months. Then 21 seasons. Then 21 years. I am still surviving. But I can do more than just survive.

And even though I don’t do it perfectly, that’s okay. It continues to be a work in progress. I have learned how to allow feelings. All the feelings.

Love, joy, frustration, anger, madness, happiness, wonder, guilt, sorrow, sympathy, compassion, regret, agony, grief, fascination, awe, sadness, disappointment, tenderness, kindness, worry, confusion, gratitude, empathy, anxiety, depression, relief, contentment, resentment, bitterness, hopelessness, peace, comfort, safety, powerlessness, despair, blessed, protected, alone, silently supported, heartbroken, renewed, hopeful…… and on and on and on.

Gratitude and a Negativity Diet

It’s November 29, 2021. Here in the United States most of us celebrated Thanksgiving last week. I love Thanksgiving for many reasons, but mostly because of the simplicity it can be. Decorations for this particular holiday can be elaborate or simple, or none at all. The food can be elaborate or simple. There are noContinue reading “Gratitude and a Negativity Diet”

Emotions Are Not Problems to Solve – Part 2

So…. now that we know what feelings and emotions are, and what causes them, how do we “fix” them? Here is the secret!!! Emotions are not problems to solve and therefore, they are nothing that needs to be fixed! Recently I had the chance to go to Disneyland and California Adventure…twice in about 5 weeks.Continue reading “Emotions Are Not Problems to Solve – Part 2”

Emotions – Part 1

Our feelings or emotions are what drive all of our behaviors. We may think that we can hide our feelings from those around us but they “show up” in subtle ways that those around us can sense on some level. This can be especially true with negative emotions. Human beings can “read” other human beingsContinue reading “Emotions – Part 1”