"Remember…..It's All Good!!"
Nearly all of us want to achieve the result of more money or finally losing weight, but are we willing to do what it takes to achieve those results? Are you willing to sacrifice what it takes to reach that end?
It is not just about the prize at the finish line but the cost of the endeavor overall.
Goal setting in the past has been my way of “fixing” the things that are wrong with me. Improving the areas that I am not measuring up to some elusive standard in my head. Working on my own mental health has helped me in my goal-setting and continued progress.
Now, at 52 years old, not only am I a distance runner but I am a marathon runner. There is a chance that I will never run another marathon. But there is a better chance that one day I will. And even if I don’t, I am a marathon runner.
So why goals? I believe that part of this “divine plan” is for me to learn to work with and manage my physical body and mind. They are gifts from my Heavenly Parents for me to use to come to know myself better. I don’t believe God wants us to become something different than we are (Just my belief, and may be unpopular), but truly to become more of who we were created to be.
I have decided to let go of the “need” for perfection. That doesn’t mean I don’t still “want” to be able to show up perfectly. I am moving toward letting go of some of that perfection and still showing up.
As I build up the muscles of doing things less than perfectly, I want to continue to create more things to share with the world.
Most importantly I want to take the time to congratulate myself on showing up, imperfectly at times, for myself, for nearly an entire year, to meet, achieve and succeed in my goals…. ALL of my goals for this particular event. Celebrating my achievements is not something I am accustom to so I am working to develop that more for myself as well.
….. more than likely you have something in your life that you are not making progress towards. And more than likely it has to do with the stories your brain is telling you about your progress or lack thereof.
tray myself as any type of expert that can solve your problems if I readily admit that I have my own problems?
I have decided that it is better to risk looking like “not an expert” than not showing up as my authentic self. I open myself up for possible criticism and judgment, but the other side of that is I can show up for myself in ways that I didn’t in the past.
Often our laziness is a result of the thoughts we have about the work that we think we need to do or want to do. In the process we come up with invalid reasons for not doing it. We call it “rest” ahead of time because we predetermine the difficulty that awaits us while we are really creating a greater amount of stress from our procrastination. This in turn makes us work harder to complete projects on a designated timeline.
But what if we didn’t have to create that sense of stress to accomplish things? What if we just determined that we could finish the task and then rest?
Obstacles will always come up for us as we evolve. It is the anticipation of those obstacles that help us to meet them when they appear, not as flaws or weakness, but just as a part of being human.
But my impossible goal is impossible more so because it requires me to show up for myself consistently, for a year…..in a loving and compassionate way. Not berating myself to do it just to say I achieved it.
The goal isn’t about “the goal” so much as it is about the person I become in the process.