Day 10… November 10
Today I am grateful for my youngest child Tegan.
Tegan is a strong, determined, high-achieving girl.
She is very involved in so many different things… Competitive soccer, High school varsity football, high school soccer, track and field, junior class president, church youth council (planning group for our local church youth groups) and works at a local restaurant and as a public pool lifeguard.
She loves her friends fiercely. She can be extremely kind, and you also don’t want to get on her bad side 🙂
She tries to be strong but wears her heart on her sleeve.
Tegan is a great example of working for what you want in life. She set a goal during her freshman year to become the kicker for the football team. There are no other girls on the football team but that didn’t slow her down.
Her oldest brother (also a former football kicker) gave her her first football and tee for Christmas in 2020. Then he took her to the school and taught her the basics.
She spent an hour every day before her soccer practice, practicing her place kicking on her own. She went to the weight room all summer with the rest of the football team, even though no one really spoke to her. She practiced on her own.
It wasn’t until the week of the first game of the 2021 season that she got her first snaps in practice with the rest of the team.
She didn’t get in the first game. They played the JV kicker instead.
It was frustrating but she was determined.
The next week she scored her first points as a varsity football player making both her extra point attempts. (There was a third opportunity but a bad snap made that impossible).
She had achieved her goal and life was great.
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The next week was a more challenging game. She missed her first PAT. But before the game finished she had been blocked twice and made 3 more PATs. The most challenging part of all was on the last kick, the player who blocked her also landed on her kicking leg as she finished.
It didn’t look great for her. Several appointments and an MRI later confirmed what the doctors suspected; her ACL was fully torn. There would be 5 weeks of physical therapy before ACL replacement surgery, followed by nearly 10 months of physical therapy to get cleared to play again.
It was a long year but she was determined to get back to her spot on the team. And she did. She was back for the entire season this year.
It has been a difficult season all around as the team lost players, got a new head coach, moved up a division, etc. but she had an overall good season.
It was not without challenges. A devastating loss for homecoming, by one point, which “felt” like her fault but was due to a bad snap and rough hold, was not a great weekend.
Some days that felt like perfection was the only option because “she was a girl” (even though we discussed that being human made perfection basically impossible).
Some sexual harassment from opposing teams.
But she put in the work, stayed the course and finished the season strong.
Tonight we went to her final game for the season. We made it through with only one “minor injury” (a lost fingernail when she had to dive on a bad snap in the first home game). She finished tonight 1-2 on PATs and had 9 points over the season.
I am grateful for the example that she is to me of going after your dreams even when others talk. Even when it doesn’t look like you will be accepted. Even when you have setbacks…..really hard, season-ending, long recovery setbacks. Never giving in to the obstacles. Especially the ones your own brain offers you. Facing the fear and coming through to what you really want.
The work is GRATITUDE, and I want to become a master!!
And as always…..Remember…..It’s ALL good!!