But my impossible goal is impossible more so because it requires me to show up for myself consistently, for a year…..in a loving and compassionate way. Not berating myself to do it just to say I achieved it.
The goal isn’t about “the goal” so much as it is about the person I become in the process.
Our brains are tricky things, and what seems helpful and motivational may be doing just the opposite. That’s okay! We just need to become aware of it and redirect it. We can do that with the thoughts we choose.
We were not meant to only go through this life, in this world, being acted upon and reacting to various situations. We were made to be beings that act for themselves. We were created to be creators. We can create the life we want but it will take work. And as much as the blood, sweat and tears method works for a moderately sustainable time, will power will give out because it is a finite resource.
It’s November 29, 2021. Here in the United States most of us celebrated Thanksgiving last week. I love Thanksgiving for many reasons, but mostly because of the simplicity it can be. Decorations for this particular holiday can be elaborate or simple, or none at all. The food can be elaborate or simple. There are noContinue reading “Gratitude and a Negativity Diet”
How does your brain talk to you when things may not go as planned? How distracted do you get in avoiding the boring, challenging or uncomfortable things you have in life? Are you able to notice what’s going on for you in the moment or is it in retrospect? Once again, as seems to frequentlyContinue reading “When Your Brain Gets Sidetracked”
So…. now that we know what feelings and emotions are, and what causes them, how do we “fix” them? Here is the secret!!! Emotions are not problems to solve and therefore, they are nothing that needs to be fixed! Recently I had the chance to go to Disneyland and California Adventure…twice in about 5 weeks.Continue reading “Emotions Are Not Problems to Solve – Part 2”
Our feelings or emotions are what drive all of our behaviors. We may think that we can hide our feelings from those around us but they “show up” in subtle ways that those around us can sense on some level. This can be especially true with negative emotions. Human beings can “read” other human beingsContinue reading “Emotions – Part 1”
And now back to our regularly scheduled programming……..and with several examples to illustrate, this one may seem long too. Or maybe it’s just me being long-winded 🙂 So with last week’s short detour, now we can take a look at how some complete models could look, depending on our thoughts and feelings. Remember our model…..Continue reading “The Solution – Part 2”