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4th of July – A Declaration of Independence

As I was thinking of The Declaration of Independence this weekend, I started to formulate my own Declaration of Independence.

What independence am I asserting for myself right now? What are my “grievances” that need to be formally adopted? Who do I need to tell?

The exciting part for me is that I don’t really need to tell anyone, and yet here I am telling you. 🙂

So in very rough-draft form, here is the beginning of my own personal Declaration of Independence. Really it is just the formative thoughts that will lead to my declaration. These are the areas of independence I am creating for myself:

Things My Brain Told Me Since My Vacation……

….. more than likely you have something in your life that you are not making progress towards. And more than likely it has to do with the stories your brain is telling you about your progress or lack thereof.

tray myself as any type of expert that can solve your problems if I readily admit that I have my own problems?

I have decided that it is better to risk looking like “not an expert” than not showing up as my authentic self. I open myself up for possible criticism and judgment, but the other side of that is I can show up for myself in ways that I didn’t in the past.

21 Years…….

Today is May 3, 2022. I started writing this at about 7:30am. I can recall what I was doing on this day at about this time 21 years ago. It was a Thursday morning which meant my preschool students would be coming to my house at 9am. My 4 children were 6, 5, 3, andContinue reading “21 Years…….”

Rest vs. Laziness

Often our laziness is a result of the thoughts we have about the work that we think we need to do or want to do. In the process we come up with invalid reasons for not doing it. We call it “rest” ahead of time because we predetermine the difficulty that awaits us while we are really creating a greater amount of stress from our procrastination. This in turn makes us work harder to complete projects on a designated timeline.

But what if we didn’t have to create that sense of stress to accomplish things? What if we just determined that we could finish the task and then rest?

Obstacles and the Motivational Triad

Obstacles will always come up for us as we evolve. It is the anticipation of those obstacles that help us to meet them when they appear, not as flaws or weakness, but just as a part of being human.

1% Goals vs Impossible Goals

But my impossible goal is impossible more so because it requires me to show up for myself consistently, for a year…..in a loving and compassionate way. Not berating myself to do it just to say I achieved it.

The goal isn’t about “the goal” so much as it is about the person I become in the process.

2022 -Resolutions and Choosing our Results

Our brains are tricky things, and what seems helpful and motivational may be doing just the opposite. That’s okay! We just need to become aware of it and redirect it. We can do that with the thoughts we choose.

Year End Practices

We were not meant to only go through this life, in this world, being acted upon and reacting to various situations. We were made to be beings that act for themselves. We were created to be creators. We can create the life we want but it will take work. And as much as the blood, sweat and tears method works for a moderately sustainable time, will power will give out because it is a finite resource.